I DON’T HAVE TO MAKE EVERYTHING ALL BETTER

Penguin Audiobooks, New York, 1999.  ISBN 0-14-086898-4.  2 audio cassette tapes with an approx. playing time of 3 hours; still in manufacturer’s shrink with with some wear/sunning to box.  Read by Alan Sklar with an Introduction by the Authors.  Six Practical Principles that Empower Others to Solve Their Own Problems While Enriching Your Relationships.  ‘… combines a psychotherapist’s clinical expertise with anecdotes, case studies, and straightforward how-to’s to present a simple yet very profound communication tool:  Validation.  Validation is listening to, and understanding, other people without judgment, correction, or advice.  It is letting them explore the depth of their feelings and experience until they rebound, supported and empowered, to solve their own problems – and show us where we may truly help.  For those of us “fixers”, here are the lessons on how to shed our misplaced responsibility and guilt, which allow us to enjoy healthier relationships.  For ours is the caring, but theirs is the responsibility.’ (from rear box)